To start, I want to congratulate myself and in turn anyone that is getting back to their writing after a long time. The reasons for my absence I will speak about in another post however for now I want to stay with what is coming up for me at this present moment.
I have felt different in the last few days and that is due to lots of things. I have been talking for a long time about how I need to meet new people with similar interests and mindset to me and how I have faith that these people are coming. I do not know when and of course this is hard. I have been around many people that were not for me, not healthy for me and simply not on my wavelength and so I understand the need to wait for what is meant to be, who is meant to be.
I am finding it hard to write today as it has been such a long time. I am sharing my truth with you so that you too can know you are not alone and its ok to feel rusty or out of touch with your fingers and the keys. I feel like I can take on the world today and I am using this to just go with whatever comes out. For now it is about typing one word after another, just doing it without thought and filter. Sometimes in life, we have to just do it despite the fear, the uncertainty, the self doubt, the lack of knowledge. At these times it is not about the words per se but the courage you have to have put the words down, for that I am proud of myself and you.
I am a strong believer in giving yourself a pat on the back for all the perceived small milestones. I use the word perceived as some people think the small are insignificant, not worth celebrating, not important enough to mention. I believe it is the ‘smaller’ steps that are the significant steps as these are the ones that start businesses, start ideas, start self growth and development. These are the moments that are significant moments in yours and my history. With the credit I give to myself, I am giving myself self love and acceptance which will then enhance my confidence in order to keep writing.
I have only typed a few paragraphs and I already feel different in myself. It is so powerful to do that which makes you feel the most alive and how for me that lights me up from the inside. It is like I have switched on my light and I am just in the moment, free. I have been walking the streets of my home not with a spring in my step but with a skip. I have a childlike quality, I am walking on air and it is light both on foot and in my heart.
I have picked this piece back up after starting it a few days ago. It is not as easy as it seems as there are sometimes distractions, real life things that need to be attended to or quite often something else stopping my progress. Me.
I can attach blame or an excuse to lack however this is just what keeps me stuck and stagnant. I am the only one that can write, put pen to paper, fingers to keys and this is what creates the utmost frustration. When I know I am the one getting in my own way, my own worst enemy it is hard and in turn this adds to the lack of progress.
This is not a self pity piece, it is simply an honest account of where I am at and I hope that by accepting my truth and sharing it with you I will in turn keep doing what I want to do, what I know deep in my soul I am meant to do, write.
I have been reflecting on my life at lot recently. I look back at where I was years ago and I am in such an amazing place in comparison. The difficulty with this now is that as I have increased my self confidence, esteem and self respect that I know how much I am capable of, what I want to do and where I want to go. I feel such a long way off.
That pulled at my heart in a big way as I feel like in one way I have only just begun and this brings its own anxiety. Even though I have been writing my personal memoir for a few years and writing this blog (despite the gap) I feel like a novice. In all honesty I am and it is hard.
My prefrontal cortex or rational side of my brain understands how far I have come, what I have been through and what I have achieved to get me here however I want to release my emotional side. I want to share my thoughts and insecurities with you so that I can be honest about who I am. I can intellectualise things well, I was always good at that and more often than not too good so that I wasnt being honest with myself about my struggles and challenges.
As quoted in the Lets Go On A Bear Hunt “you can’t go under it, you can’t go over it, oh no you have to go through it”. There is no other way, not if you want to live an authentic life. I have to continue doing what I am doing, facing my fears, writing and talking about my challenges and insecurities in order to give them light and air so that in time they can dissipate. I need to write every day (I will try) so that it becomes more of a habit and becomes part of my everyday life again. This is turn makes me feel more alive, more connected, more free and that I am doing something worthwhile and fulfilling. Fulfilling is a big word for me just now as I have been feeling that a lot of what I have been doing lately is not fulfilling. I have a big mind, huge imagination and I feel like I am very limited in what I am doing on a daily basis.
I feel like my close surrounding world is very small and somewhat restrained and as such I feel even more alienated. I am more connected to the bigger world and less connected to the smaller. As I sit and write I reflect on the big feeling, perhaps a revelation that if I go further in my journey and on my path in the bigger world I will become less connected to the smaller hence so much more further away. My words are jumbled as I write. They are all trying to come together and make sense to me.
Fear is the main word that is coming to mind. Fear of what I am leaving behind, maybe a fear of who I am leaving behind and this is coming clearer the more I write. That is the beauty and the power of writing. It is my way of talking as I don’t have people currently in my life that understand where I am at spiritually. When I write, I somehow feel connected. I feel like people are listening, people understand. I have faith that there are people reading that can identify with me and for that I am very grateful and it gives me peace.
I still have my gremlin on my shoulder that tries to scare me into not writing however I have reframed the word fear for myself so that I no longer let it get its way. I refuse to let it have its way. I refuse to give it power. The only one that has the power is me and this is my personal power.
My reframed fear is:-
F eel
E nergy
A nd
R elease
Fear is a form of energy so I thought of a way of looking at fear when I feel it, when it comes up and I allow it to stop me doing what I want to do. These words just came to me and as I write them down I released that it is basically taking a breath, a deep cleansing breath. Feel Energy is breathing in deeply And Release is breathing out. I have reframed my fear so that when it comes up I breathe in and out until my nervous system naturally calms again. I now have a positive association with fear rather than a negative, an obstacle.
If there is a word that you are struggling with, stuck on and it is keeping you moving on, moving upwards or forward then just reframe it. You give it another meaning, something that resonates with you, something that changes it from a negative to a positive.
Do not let fear stop you, reframe it so that it starts you.
Start do not stop.
With my deepest love and respect, sending you peace and light
Sophie Marie x